Get To Know Dr. Jess

Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist (PhD), author and television personality.

An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.

Just the facts

From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after.

Jess’ doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn’t globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships.

As a global ambassador for sexual health and wellness brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You’ll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights on relationship issues reach millions of homes across North America and you may have seen her on The Today Show,  Global TV’s The Morning ShowBreakfast Television, Marilyn Denis, as the host of the hit reality series Swing and City TV’s Intimately You.

Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?

Credentials & Writings

Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counsellor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.

Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with four best-selling titles. Her latest, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, co-authored with Marla Rene Stewart, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike. Her other books The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks & The Little Book of Kink are highly acclaimed and you can find Dr. Jess offering more expertise and advice on Global TV’s The Morning Show or traveling for international speaking events.

Who she works with

Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.


  • YPO - Young Presidents’ Organization (North America, Middle East, Europe and Asia)
  • Astroglide (Biofilm)
  • Community Living York South & York Support Services Network (Special Needs Youth)
  • City of Toronto (Adapted and Integrated Services)
  • City of Fort McMurray Sexual Health Information Line
  • Wood Buffalo HIV/AIDS Society
  • Toronto District School Board
  • Desire Resort and Spa
  • OISE/University of Toronto
  • Charles Sturt University
  • University of Wisconsin Stevens Point
  • EO - Entrepreneurs' Organization
  • Alberta Community Council on HIV
  • Superclubs (Hedonism II Resort)
  • Lovehoney

The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay

Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex

This isn’t just about seduction. It’s your ultimate guide to erotic theory & sexual communication.

Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of pleasure.

What are your Green Flags in dating & relationships? A few of mine:
✔️Their actions reflect their words.
✔️They’re kind and conscientious. 
✔️They want me to be a part of their life — not the source of life.
✔️They show interest and care for people and issues beyond their bubble.
✔️They bring fun to the table and aren’t looking for me to make life fun for them.
✔️They express desire for connection that isn’t contingent upon receiving it first.
✔️They cultivate and contribute to community in their family, neighbourhood, etc.
Best Tips for Quickies
1. Take turns pleasing one another. Quickies can involve all types of play and when you take turns, it can alleviate performance pressure. 
2. Use your hands to explore for the sake of pleasure as opposed to focusing on one type of play. 
3. Lube is your best friend and folks who use it report more desire, pleasure & satisfaction. Get a free ASTROGLIDE sample via the link in my bio.
4. A simple change in location can heighten awareness, which can lead to greater sensitivity and pleasure. 
5. Keep your clothes on to save time & kink it up.
6. Build anticipation. The physical act will inevitably be quick, but you can build anticipation over time to heighten desire and prolong the pleasure.

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