Get To Know Dr. Jess

Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist (PhD), author and television personality.

An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.

Just the facts

From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after.

Jess’ doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn’t globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships.

As a global ambassador for sexual health and wellness brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You’ll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights on relationship issues reach millions of homes across North America and you may have seen her on The Today Show,  Global TV’s The Morning ShowBreakfast Television, Marilyn Denis, as the host of the hit reality series Swing and City TV’s Intimately You.

Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?

Credentials & Writings

Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counsellor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.

Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with four best-selling titles. Her latest, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, co-authored with Marla Rene Stewart, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike. Her other books The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks & The Little Book of Kink are highly acclaimed and you can find Dr. Jess offering more expertise and advice on Global TV’s The Morning Show or traveling for international speaking events.

Who she works with

Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.


  • YPO - Young Presidents’ Organization (North America, Middle East, Europe and Asia)
  • Astroglide (Biofilm)
  • Community Living York South & York Support Services Network (Special Needs Youth)
  • City of Toronto (Adapted and Integrated Services)
  • City of Fort McMurray Sexual Health Information Line
  • Wood Buffalo HIV/AIDS Society
  • Toronto District School Board
  • Desire Resort and Spa
  • OISE/University of Toronto
  • Charles Sturt University
  • University of Wisconsin Stevens Point
  • EO - Entrepreneurs' Organization
  • Alberta Community Council on HIV
  • Superclubs (Hedonism II Resort)
  • Lovehoney

The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay

Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex

This isn’t just about seduction. It’s your ultimate guide to erotic theory & sexual communication.

Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of pleasure.

Last month’s workshops brought me so much joy & the Coastal San Diego chapter stood out for their enthusiasm and unmatched willingness to share from the moment we walked into the room.
Here are a few takeaways from the group session:
1. Gush. Go on and on about your partner — to their face, behind their back and on the microphone in front of your friends and peers. Compliment them and show gratitude in abundance - even if it makes you feel uncomfortable. 
Don’t *assume* they know how great they are. *Tell* them.
2. Cackle. Let laughter be your hobby. Indulge in the feel-good hormones that promote bonding, diffuse tension and create shared meaning. 
One of the first participants to hop on the mic and gush about his partner highlighted how much fun they have together and how they find themselves “in stitches” on the daily — roaring laughter all night long, which is absolutely related to roaring pleasure of all kinds.
3. Alarm clock. Do you take your phone into your bedroom? Do you rationalize falling asleep and waking up to your phone on account of its function as an alarm clock.
There’s a simple solution: get an alarm clock.
Leaving your phone out of your bedroom (even once or twice a week) is a game changer. The mere presence of our devices detracts from connection, trust and presence — all of which lay the groundwork for pleasure and fulfilling relationships.
Thank you to @heh_ther AKA @theheatherfactor for including me in your programming! It was a pleasure.
I’m behind on the posts, so we’ve got tips from Bahamas, DC, NYC, Miami and more coming up…
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Playing catch-up here. I’ve been on the road and in the air for 47 days taking more notes than photos at these couples’ retreats and Bermuda was a highlight.
Beyond the pink sand and genuine warmth (everyone says ‘good morning’ to strangers which is in my blood 🇯🇲), this group was amazing to work with - open, vulnerable, thoughtful and kind. And the post-session conversations were a personal highlight.
On top of it all, I got to paddle board on a clear SUP - an unreal experience in those turquoise waters.😳
But back to the lessons from happy couples:
1. Simmer: build excitement and let them know you’re thinking of them without interrupting their day by saving posts and memes into shared folders on IG. Pick categories that excite you from travel to erotica to philosophy and beyond and surprise them with new additions at your leisure. 📁
2. White board: want to work on an issue, flesh out a problem or come up with solutions? White board your process just like you do at the office. One couple shared their experience of writing down all the things to which they allocate time (kids, work, hobbies, time alone, health, projects, etc.). They colour-coded check marks to indicate where they wanted to invest more time, wrote down some goals & came up with strategies to execute.✔️
3. Skim: this one is simple. Build physical connection and desire through flirtatious and affectionate touch. Brush your against them, run your hand over their inner thigh or give them a pat on the butt when they’re walking up the stairs. Rather than relegating physical affection to the bedroom, create rituals to weave throughout the day. 
#1&3 credit to: @pvkbr & @michaelwbranco
Would you simmer, white-board or skim? These little things can go a long way!

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