Get to know Dr. Jess

Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist (PhD), author and television personality.

An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.

Just the facts

From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after.

Jess’ doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn’t globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships.

As a global ambassador for sexual health and wellness brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You’ll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights on relationship issues reach millions of homes across North America and you may have seen her on The Today Show, Global TV’s The Morning Show, Breakfast Television, Marilyn Denis, as the host of the hit reality series Swing and City TV’s Intimately You.

Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?

Credentials & Writings

Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counsellor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.

Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with four best-selling titles. Her latest, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, co-authored with Marla Rene Stewart, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike. Her other books The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks & The Little Book of Kink are highly acclaimed and you can find Dr. Jess offering more expertise and advice on Global TV’s The Morning Show or traveling for international speaking events.

Who she works with

Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.

SOME CURRENT AND PAST CLIENTS/PARTNERS INCLUDE

YPO - Young Presidents’ Organization (North America, Middle East, Europe and Asia)
Astroglide (Biofilm)
Community Living York South & York Support Services Network (Special Needs Youth)
City of Toronto (Adapted and Integrated Services)
City of Fort McMurray Sexual Health Information Line
Wood Buffalo HIV/AIDS Society

Toronto District School Board
Desire Resort and Spa
OISE/University of Toronto
Charles Sturt University
University of Wisconsin Stevens Point
EO - Entrepreneurs' Organization
Alberta Community Council on HIV
Superclubs (Hedonism II Resort)
Lovehoney

The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay

Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex

This isn’t just about seduction. It’s your ultimate guide to erotic theory & sexual communication.

Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of pleasure.

Big exhale.🤞🏼

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A NY minute with for the launch of Womanizer Enhance, the first product to combine vibrations + Pleasure Air tech. Here are a few numbers from their recent research:
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•36% of menopausal women experience symptom relief through self-pleasure😊
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•47% of testers had multiples using the new Enhance.💃🏻
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•70% report that self-pleasure reduces the intensity of period pains😮‍💨
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The Enhance is an *actual* disruptor in the sexual wellness space with a 100% ohhh rate in testing, so I’ve shared the link in my bio.
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And that last pic is from the @nyuniversity Sex Therapist club founded by @shrinktwink & Yvonne Nguyen. The future is bright! (Thanks for the intro, @moontower_counseling!)

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A NY minute with for the launch of Womanizer Enhance, the first product to combine vibrations + Pleasure Air tech. Here are a few numbers from their recent research:
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•36% of menopausal women experience symptom relief through self-pleasure😊
.
•47% of testers had multiples using the new Enhance.💃🏻
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•70% report that self-pleasure reduces the intensity of period pains😮‍💨
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The Enhance is an *actual* disruptor in the sexual wellness space with a 100% ohhh rate in testing, so I’ve shared the link in my bio.
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And that last pic is from the @nyuniversity Sex Therapist club founded by @shrinktwink & Yvonne Nguyen. The future is bright! (Thanks for the intro, @moontower_counseling!)

🛳️Highlights of the Temptation Cruise:
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▪️Workshops by Yours Truly & fellow facilitators @frostedpleasure, @livlove_inc, @sexwithalexa & @kateshelor. We covered everything from full-body pleasure, sensual dance and body confidence to dirty talk and hypnotic sex. Be sure to follow them (they’re tagged in the pics too)!
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▪️Port day in Ochi. We headed a few miles along the coast for a quick visit with my cousins & their turtle.
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▪️The beautiful and impressive AirOtic performance
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▪️Watching hundreds of flying fish (they look like tiny birds) from the stern of the ship (no pics of this or the jello wrestling contest!).
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▪️Glow party with DJ Tatiana — the best vibes possible on the dance floor.
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Temptation cruises are a blast with wild pool parties, themed enterainment, a host of workshops and the most fun and laid-back crowd. We sail out of Miami again in November. Link is in my bio and if you prefer a couples’ experience, check out the next Desire Cruise out of Rome in May (link also in bio).

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🛳️Highlights of the Temptation Cruise:
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▪️Workshops by Yours Truly & fellow facilitators @frostedpleasure, @livlove_inc, @sexwithalexa & @kateshelor. We covered everything from full-body pleasure, sensual dance and body confidence to dirty talk and hypnotic sex. Be sure to follow them (they’re tagged in the pics too)!
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▪️Port day in Ochi. We headed a few miles along the coast for a quick visit with my cousins & their turtle.
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▪️The beautiful and impressive AirOtic performance
.
▪️Watching hundreds of flying fish (they look like tiny birds) from the stern of the ship (no pics of this or the jello wrestling contest!).
.
▪️Glow party with DJ Tatiana — the best vibes possible on the dance floor.
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Temptation cruises are a blast with wild pool parties, themed enterainment, a host of workshops and the most fun and laid-back crowd. We sail out of Miami again in November. Link is in my bio and if you prefer a couples’ experience, check out the next Desire Cruise out of Rome in May (link also in bio).

I’m late to post, but the lessons this time around were worth the wait IMHO. Starting with📍 Boston…
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Thank you to EO Boston for hosting me! Working with entrepreneurs who recognize the undeniable flow between relationship and business resources is always a highlight.
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One of the couples reminded me of an important truth:
“Your nervous system doesn’t clock out when you do.”
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Work stress doesn’t just stay at the office—it follows you home, impacting communication, intimacy, and overall connection. Emotional exhaustion can create distance, but intentional down-regulation strategies can help:
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▪️Post-work calming rituals (e.g. listening to an uplifting song, a quick stretch or 7 deep breaths, gratitude journal entry)
▪️Affectionate greetings (Be the dog! If you know, you know.)
▪️Shared laughter
▪️Small moments of connection (e.g. thoughtful texts, sharing memes, holding hands, 60 second favors)
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Simple practices can help calm the nervous system and create space for stronger relationships. And the benefits go both ways—healthy relationships improve resilience, focus, and leadership. Q: Are you intentional about trying to check your work stress at the door before joining your loved one(s) at home?