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C Is for Cupping
Cupping isn’t just for Olympic athletes and Instagram influencers showing off their bruised backs. Cupping is a form of sex play in which suction cups are placed on the skin to draw blood to the surface. Cups come in varying sizes (to suit different body parts) and some use a suction cup or vacuum to create suction, while others use heat. Specialty kits designed for the explicit purpose of cupping can be purchased from sex stores and practitioners need to exercise caution when playing with suction and fire. I advise clients to take a workshop to learn about safety measures associated with cupping and discuss safety measures with their local sex-positive retailer.
If you’re curious, grab a kit from your local sex-positive shop and consider taking a workshop to ensure you’re practicing safely and consensually. For toy lovers, tools like the We-Vibe Touch pair beautifully with cupping — combining suction play with rumbly vibration for intense stimulation.
C Is for the CAT Position (Coital Alignment Technique)
Designed for penile-vaginal intercourse, the CAT offers clitoral stimulation against the penetrating partner’s pelvic bone. The CAT is a basic modification of the missionary position that involves the partner with the penis riding up on the receiving partner’s pelvis so they can rock and rub the clitoris against the base of their penis and/or pelvic bone. This is how the CAT breaks down:
- The receiving partner lies on their back and the penetrating partner lies on top while they insert their penis into the vagina.
- They then shift their body upwards along their partner’s (they can rest their hands/arms beside their partner’s head) so that the base of their penis and pelvic bone press firmly against the clitoral hood and pelvic bone.
- Traditionally, the CAT involves the receiving partner wrapping their feet around the penetrating partner’s calves as they rock and rub against one another as opposed to thrusting.
- Some receiving partners find intensified pleasure in squeezing their legs together during the CAT to create greater friction and tension. This squeezing sensation can also intensify the penetrating partner’s pleasure.
Sound technical? It’s really quite simple and feels a lot better than it looks on paper. Don’t take my word for it. Try it out for yourself and play with the CAT to find what works for you.
CÂ is for Clitoris.
The clitoris is remarkable for several reasons:
1.   It is the only body part that rhymes with Dolores.
2.   It is the only human organ designed solely for the purpose of pleasure. Hooray for clits!
3.   It is a complex organ of more than 18 parts!
What’s more is that the clitoral plumbing is very similar to that of the penis: it includes a head, foreskin, legs, shaft and three tubular structures that allow for erection of this responsive hot spot. More than just a pea-sized bump, research indicates that the nerve-rich clitoris is more sensitive than both the penis and the vagina. Click here to learn more. Pair your exploration with a well-designed toy like the Womanizer Duo for both internal and external stimulation.
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C is for Consent
Consent isn’t just sexy — it’s fundamental. It’s a clear, enthusiastic, ongoing “yes” that must be given freely and can be revoked at any time. In practice, consent means checking in, reading nonverbal cues, respecting boundaries, and knowing that silence is not agreement. Consent is not a mood-killer; it’s an arousal amplifier because nothing is hotter than mutual, intentional desire.
C is for Cock Rings
Cock rings — or constriction rings — are designed to restrict blood flow, helping some folks maintain firmer erections and prolong pleasure. They come in silicone, metal, leather, and even vibrating varieties for shared stimulation. But remember: tight isn’t always right. Choose a size that feels snug but not constricting, and never wear one for more than 20–30 minutes without a break.
Want to explore? The Pivot by We-Vibe offers a stretchy, body-safe fit with rumbly vibrations for both partners — perfect for those who want pleasure with benefits.
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Want more?
If you’re diving into the world of cupping or exploring the depths of clitoral pleasure, you may also enjoy learning more Sex Terms for a cheeky vocabulary boost — because expanding your erotic language can expand your erotic life. And if the CAT position has piqued your interest in pressure, friction, and deeper internal sensation, don’t miss Your Guide to G-Spots & Squirting for another layer of anatomical exploration.
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