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I’m Jess O’Reilly and I’m a sexologist. Born in Canada, I’m Chinese-Jamaican on my mom’s side and Irish on my dad’s. I have a PhD in human sexuality with a focus on teacher training in sexual health & relationship education. School-based education is my passion, so if you’re a teacher, parent or student in a public school, reach out, as I’d love to come volunteer in your classroom!
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Q1 wrapped. 😅 I have 17 pages of notes from the past few months and one theme that showed up across 25+ workshops and retreats from Sun Valley to Sitges relates to the Platinum Rule, which matters more than the Golden one: treat others how *they* want to be treated rather than treating them how *you* want to be treated. This is especially important during tense interactions and conflict resolution.
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“I always have to remind myself that her version of support is often different than mine. Where I may want validation, she may just want a listening ear.” ~Tulsa, OK
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“We always ask ‘Do you need comfort or solutions?’ as effective shorthand for ensuring understanding.” ~New York, NY
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I use this model to help (couples, business partners and teams) lay the groundwork discussing needs before tension arises: “When I’m feeling _______, I want to feel _____. You can help by _______. In these moments, I don’t want _______ because _______.”
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Of course you don’t have to meet every need and adjusting expectations goes a long way in relationships, but making an attempt to offer support and care in the ways that matter to your loved ones builds trust, safety and connection.
Silicone lube is for:
1. Hands-on play 👌🏼
2. Longer lasting sensation ⏳
3. Quickies and creativity 🤸🏽♀️
4. Full body exploration 👄
5. Waterproof fun 🛁
6. Slow and mindful moments ⏰
Today’s the day! Watch @thepinkpillfilm on Paramount+. This award-winning documentary explores the cultural, scientific and political movements surrounding the first FDA and Health Canada-approved treatment for women’s sexual desire. EDIT to add: I’m just a itty-bitty part of this (despite this pretty movie poster). All the kudos go to the main characters @cindypinkceo @aislingchinyee @abbygreensfelder et al.!
Happy Valentine’s Day! 💕You plan for everything that matters, so be sure to plan for pleasure this Valentine’s by picking up a bottle of ASTROGLIDE wherever you shop.
Can’t wait to read, learn and relish in this brilliance: Black Public Joy by Jay Pitter is out this week— an uplifting narrative amid the strain of civic systems & public spaces. Toronto Life calls it an “instruction manual for joy.” The book frames public joy as civic, cultural and spatial infrastructure. Will link in stories.
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