A Newbie’s First Experience at Desire Resorts

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TL;DR – A Newbie’s First Experience at Desire Resorts

First time at Desire Resorts? Julie, a Canadian PR pro and self-proclaimed open-minded adventurer, shares her honest and insightful experience visiting the clothing-optional, adults-only resort.

Why she went:

• Desire checked all her boxes: gourmet food, erotic ambiance, sensual massages, and freedom of expression.

• She craved a space to explore sexuality without judgment.

Pre-trip nerves included:

• Will I fit in?

• Do I have to get naked?

• Will people judge my body or pressure me to do things I’m not ready for?

  Spoiler: No one cares what you wear or look like, and you won’t be pressured to do anything.

Key takeaways:

• Desire is a welcoming space that celebrates body confidence and personal growth (if you want it to).

• She felt seen, celebrated, and free to be herself (emotionally and sexually).

• The erotic massage, friendly crowd, and “alcoholic whipped cream incident” in the Jacuzzi were unforgettable.

Impact on her relationship:

• Strengthened their bond through communication, shared pleasure, and vulnerability.

• Desire helped them define boundaries, explore fantasies, and grow closer.

Thinking of going?

• Explore your personal boundaries ahead of time.

• Communicate openly with your partner.

• Go in as a team, and you’ll leave stronger.

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As you may know, I used to visit Desire Resorts in Mexico several times per year to facilitate couples workshops, host book signings and recharge my batteries to the sound of the ocean breeze. Since 2017, my efforts have been focused on Desire Cruises and doing the same on the ‘high seas’. 

And if you’ve ever heard me speak, you know that I always return with a handful of stories, anecdotes and lessons (like The Claudia AKA The Goddess) drawn from my interactions with the couples I meet at the resorts on cruise ships. Not surprisingly, I receive more questions about Desire Resorts than almost any other topic (e.g. What happens there? Is everyone naked? Do you get naked? Do you see people having sex in public?), so I’ve recruited a “newbie” guest to answer some questions about her first visit.

First-Time Visit to Desire Resorts: Honest Insights from a Newbie

Julie, a Canadian public relations professional, took the plunge and joined us at Desire for the first time. Here’s what she had to say.

What drew you to Desire Resorts?

Jess: What prompted you to visit Desire Resorts in the first place?

Julie: I have always been a very open-minded, sexual being. It took years as an adult to discover who I am, and to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will approve, and I won’t fit in with all social circles.

When I first heard about Desire Resorts, I couldn’t book a trip fast enough. It encompassed so many of my favourite things in one place: gourmet food with an emphasis on aphrodisiac cuisine, clothing optional pool parties, intense nightlife, and an all-around sexy, passionate atmosphere. Desire tickled my fancy before I even arrived.

Did you have any hesitations?

Jess: Did you have any hesitations/concerns before you left?

Julie: Anytime I try something new, or visit a new place, there are always some form of nerves, hesitations and concerns. However, as soon as I booked my first trip to Desire, I experienced an overwhelming feeling of excitement! The anticipation leading up to the trip, was almost as much fun as being there… Almost!

As someone who admittedly does a bit of over-thinking, I believe I had the same typical questions and concerns that most first-timers, especially women, would have prior to their inaugural trip to Desire. Who will I meet? Will they like me? Will I like them? How will I compare to the other women there? What’s this about clothing optional and is it something I want to participate in? Will I be pressured to get naked and partake in things I’m not ready for?

From my experience I quickly learned that “your concerns” are just that – YOUR concerns. No one cares what you look like! Whether you get completely naked or sport a conservative one piece, you are welcomed just the same; with a smile and open arms.

Building confidence and reducing my personal insecurities required inside work. However, I actually found that going to a place like Desire, helped me to further achieve this. I soon discovered more about myself – what I liked, what I wanted, and what I needed, both sexually and otherwise.

My advice to anyone traveling to Desire for the first time is to relax and spend some time thinking about your boundaries as an individual and as a couple.

What were your first impressions?

Jess: What were your first impressions when you arrived?

Julie: Welcoming staff; beautiful, pristine grounds; sexy artwork; a cold, crisp glass of champagne… I knew that Desire would live up to all of my expectations and more before I even left the lobby! This theme continued with entering our room and discovering our very own private, romantic, sexy oasis. When venturing out to explore, we met the most friendly, like-minded people I could have ever hoped to cross paths with.

I always tell inquiring minds how excited and turned on I am every time I visit Desire; right from that welcome glass of champagne, straight through until the moment I leave! Desire is a sensual, sexually charged place. While it may not be intended for everyone, I discovered quickly that it’s meant for me! I instantly felt like I could be my true self and had a sense of belonging – Something I had yet to experience before.

What stood out during your trip?

Dr. Jess: What were the highlights of your first visit? What did you learn about yourself at Desire?

Julie: I had experience in the “Lifestyle” prior to visiting Desire, but was very excited to explore that side of myself, combined with a tropical vacation. The highlights from my first trip include: Amazing memories in the pool and Jacuzzi; delicious, sexy meals; passionate one-on-one time with my partner; exploring fantasies and trying new things; enjoying the Desire Erotic Massage experience (trust me, it’s worth it!); and the countless other memorable times we spent with the new friends we met! I am likely going to hell for the alcoholic whipped cream incident in the Jacuzzi, but it’s safe to say I won’t be going there alone!

I am so thankful for my first and subsequent experiences at Desire, and will continue to return for more fun! I always learn something new about myself with each visit, but I am most appreciative to have discovered that I can be myself and be celebrated for who I am. What an amazing feeling!

Desire has made a big impact on my voyage to self-discovery. It has been a significant part of helping me understand what I need in a relationship, in myself, and life in general.

Did it change your relationship?

Jess: Has your visit to Desire Resorts changed you or your relationship in any way?

Julie: Desire has definitely changed me for the better. I look forward to continuing the adventure with regular trips back to these beautiful resorts. Desire and similar resorts put you and your relationship under a microscope and to the test. It’s easy to identify the couples who may not be on the same page, are experiencing insecurities individually or as a couple, and who have not quite agreed on their boundaries. I would be lying if I said I’ve never been that couple at Desire before.

In my experience, if you go in as a strong team, communicate effectively, and put jealousy aside, you will come out on top 😉

Final Thoughts on Visiting Desire for the First Time

Desire has become a meaningful part of my journey in the field of sex and relationships. You’ll find me on upcoming Desire Cruises and if you have any questions or want to learn more, please feel free to email us and use this link to learn more (or book). 

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Curious to learn more? Check out these resources to prepare for your next adventure:

• Desire Resorts: Adults-Only, Clothing-Optional Resort FAQ – Answers to all your Desire Resorts questions.
  

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Important note: Though I (Jessica O’Reilly) have an existing relationship with Desire Resorts, this blog post represents the honest answers of a real client (she’d likely be willing to answer more questions if you’re interested in getting in touch). Julie received no compensation for this interview — she simply wants to share her experience in hopes that others may benefit and she was one of many guests who offered to participate. 

 

 

 

 

 

Interview compiled by Jessica O’Reilly & Katelyn Rea.