Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist (PhD), author and television personality.
An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.
From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after.
Jess’ doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn’t globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships.
As a global ambassador for sexual health and wellness brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You’ll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights on relationship issues reach millions of homes across North America and you may have seen her on The Today Show, Global TV’s The Morning Show, Breakfast Television, Marilyn Denis, as the host of the hit reality series Swing and City TV’s Intimately You.
Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?
Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counsellor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.
Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with four best-selling titles. Her latest, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, co-authored with Marla Rene Stewart, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike. Her other books The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks & The Little Book of Kink are highly acclaimed and you can find Dr. Jess offering more expertise and advice on Global TV’s The Morning Show or traveling for international speaking events.
Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.
This isn’t just about seduction. It’s your ultimate guide to erotic theory & sexual communication.
Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of pleasure.
Q1 wrapped. 😅 I have 17 pages of notes from the past few months and one theme that showed up across 25+ workshops and retreats from Sun Valley to Sitges relates to the Platinum Rule, which matters more than the Golden one: treat others how *they* want to be treated rather than treating them how *you* want to be treated. This is especially important during tense interactions and conflict resolution.
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“I always have to remind myself that her version of support is often different than mine. Where I may want validation, she may just want a listening ear.” ~Tulsa, OK
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“We always ask ‘Do you need comfort or solutions?’ as effective shorthand for ensuring understanding.” ~New York, NY
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I use this model to help (couples, business partners and teams) lay the groundwork discussing needs before tension arises: “When I’m feeling _______, I want to feel _____. You can help by _______. In these moments, I don’t want _______ because _______.”
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Of course you don’t have to meet every need and adjusting expectations goes a long way in relationships, but making an attempt to offer support and care in the ways that matter to your loved ones builds trust, safety and connection.
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3. Quickies and creativity 🤸🏽♀️
4. Full body exploration 👄
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6. Slow and mindful moments ⏰
Today’s the day! Watch @thepinkpillfilm on Paramount+. This award-winning documentary explores the cultural, scientific and political movements surrounding the first FDA and Health Canada-approved treatment for women’s sexual desire. EDIT to add: I’m just a itty-bitty part of this (despite this pretty movie poster). All the kudos go to the main characters @cindypinkceo @aislingchinyee @abbygreensfelder et al.!
Happy Valentine’s Day! 💕You plan for everything that matters, so be sure to plan for pleasure this Valentine’s by picking up a bottle of ASTROGLIDE wherever you shop.
Can’t wait to read, learn and relish in this brilliance: Black Public Joy by Jay Pitter is out this week— an uplifting narrative amid the strain of civic systems & public spaces. Toronto Life calls it an “instruction manual for joy.” The book frames public joy as civic, cultural and spatial infrastructure. Will link in stories.
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