Dr. Jess is a Toronto-based sexologist (PhD), author and television personality.
An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.
From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after.
Jessâ doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isnât globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships.
As a global ambassador for sexual health and wellness brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. Youâll find her advice weekly in the likes of Womenâs Health, Menâs Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights on relationship issues reach millions of homes across North America and you may have seen her on The Today Show,  Global TV’s The Morning Show, Breakfast Television, Marilyn Denis, as the host of the hit reality series Swing and City TV’s Intimately You.
Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?
Jess OâReilly began working as a sexuality counsellor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.
Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with four best-selling titles. Her latest, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, co-authored with Marla Rene Stewart, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike. Her other books The New Sex Bible, Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks & The Little Book of Kink are highly acclaimed and you can find Dr. Jess offering more expertise and advice on Global TVâs The Morning Show or traveling for international speaking events.
Dr. Jessâ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.
This isnât just about seduction. Itâs your ultimate guide to erotic theory & sexual communication.
Packed with practical exercises, techniques, and creative ideas, this inclusive guide is a surefire way for folks of all genders to master the art of pleasure.
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Our last couplesâ retreat of 2025 was something rare. This Austrian group brought focus, grace, vulnerability and a sincere commitment to investing in their relationships. Every so often, couples show up to âcheck the boxâ and tell themselves they tried, but these folks werenât there for the one-pager. They showed up to do the real work, to slow down, to reflect, and to practice. Here are a few relationship insights I took from our group and one-on-one conversations:
1. Swap one task to expose invisible labour; itâs not about helping out or making things âfairâ, but providing a new lens. Doing your partnerâs task gives you a feel for the mental and emotional load behind it. If you have to ask a bunch of questions, youâre uncovering the tiny decisions that drain them more than the task itself.
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2. Get to know your repair formulas when things are calm as opposed to during the conflict. If you wait until youâre flooded to communicate what you need in order to make things better, it can be harder to understand. Talk about what repair means to you just as you talk about other needs in your relationship. Do you usually need space, closeness, reassurance, affection, clarity or something else?
3. Put your relationship on the calendar before the kids, work and other commitments. If you schedule connection last, it wonât happen. If you schedule it first, everything else rearranges around it. Iâve never encountered a group of couples more committed to date nights, nightly rituals and getaways sans kids. This group gave me so much hope!
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4. Touch without an agenda. Non-sexual touch helps regulate your nervous system and reinforces safety. If touch only happens when sex is on the table, it can feel loaded. Simple, everyday affection keeps the pathway to intimacy open.
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5. Schedule moments that may lead to desire even if you donât want to schedule the sex itself. Oftentimes the struggle for desire is actually about the conditions that support it. You may not be able to schedule arousal, but you can schedule the rituals that make arousal possible (at present or in the future).
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